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14@14th, 17@15th: Open Letter To My Close Confidant

Rhea,

Happy Anniversary!

It’s like yesterday when I was still finding time to visit you after my teaching schedule in a university. When I first asked you on the 8th, you deferred your answer. Yeah, December 8 would have been the date when you said “yes”. But maybe timing wasn’t right, and I was right. So when the sun, stars, moon, and the planets aligned on the 15th, and your parents left us to talk alone,  you answered “YES”. Yes, on my favorite number 15.

In the interim, i.e. before marriage I should say, I realized I got more reason everyday to be with you the rest of my life. Each day then, I was thinking of how I can establish my own family with you. It was the most challenging financial days of my life: when I need to support my siblings in college, be a part-breadwinner of the family, and save for the wedding, while still indebted to credit cards.

But all those, I surpassed. We surpassed. That made my 25th birthday special because it was my last birthday as single. Same with your birthday the following month. It was our last birthday celebration before we get married. It was the happiest celebration I had in 25 years of my life. We were blessed with two children, and that meant two more birthday celebrations in addition to our birthdays. Look at them now. Look how we get to have our bloodlines continued in their persons. Look how they looked like me. (LoL)

With all these, let me make a proposition. Let this day and thereafter be another chapter of an even happier relationship. I know I made my promise and I will continue to make sure that promise is fulfilled – just like a continuing mandamus imposed upon myself.

While some people experience “mid-life crisis” at our age, I propose we build “mid-life memories” that we will cherish until our last days. I know sometimes it is expensive to explore, but what the heck?! We can earn money lost. But lost time can not be bought by money.  See how older people regretted not doing things they could have done when they were younger, like to travel. I don’t know how the older us will be like, but I want to know what the present us can do while we still can.

This year’s anniversary, just like 2003, will be a major shift. That, I predict. Next year will be another milestone. We already have several scheduled travel adventures. Some with kids, some #jhezthe2ofus. Next year, I am expecting to have that title everyone is dying to have. We both know that I don’t need another title. Our kids don’t need a parent with another title. They just need us. A title sounds like another person when it’s not. It’s just another profession. Same me. If I will ever get that title, it is just a mere incident and not the objective. I cannot have something I already have. In Criminal Law, it is called “impossible crime” because of inherent impossibility of accomplishment or on account of the employment of inadequate or ineffectual means. It is me all along without the title. It will still be me with or without the title. The difference will be: we can have an alternative source of income to finance our adventures.

So much for the promises. Let us #jhezenjoythisday!

I love you.

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Posted by on December 14, 2017 in Love and Relationships, Personal

 

My 17th Valentine’s Day With You

I love each day,

Skies blue and gray,

Just wanting to say,

That I’m here to stay,

It became a habit,

Not to set a limit,

On how to show it,

And how you love it,

We’re friends before,

I opened that door,

And walked that floor,

Sweethearts therefore,

But when we got married,

And our lives got welded,

The spark never ended,

Instead became unprecedented,

I will never get tired,

Holding your hand tight,

I will  keep your heart tied,

With my heart where it is wired,

I promise not to change,

On every single page,

Of our life and our age,

In and out of that hedge,

I won’t change a thing,

Like the way I sing,

I’ll keep on living,

I’ll keep on loving,

It’s been seventeen times,

That you’re my Valentine,

And it’s perfectly fine,

Now let’s drink that wine,

Seventeen once a year,

Seven hundred times sweeter,

Seven thousand folds lovelier,

And I’m forever your partner.

 
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Posted by on February 14, 2017 in Love and Relationships, Personal

 

12;13;14;15;16

12th month of every year;

13 years of marriage since

14 December 2003;

15 December 2000 when she first said YES and it has been

16 years  since then.

Happy Anniversary Rhea!

It isn’t about the numbers. Who said that 13 is a bad number? We’re 13 years as husband and wife, 16 years as sweethearts, yet nothing changed, except our physical attributes. God is always the heart, and love is always the blood, of our relationship.

May we continue to be ourselves – longing for each other;

May we remain indefatigable – understanding each’s strength and weaknesses;

May we continue to be the best of friends – with benefits  ;

Lüving ü always.

Mwäh!

Jhez

 
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Posted by on December 15, 2016 in Love and Relationships, Personal

 

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Forty Reasons Why I Love You!

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Hi! It’s your birthday once again. But unlike the past celebrations, this time is different. They say life begins at forty – whatever that means. I don’t know if that is even applicable in our case.

Just to give some reasons to stay in love with you, FORTY to be exact:

  1. I knew it’s you, since Day 1 when I met you;
  2. The genuineness of your smile;
  3. The sincerity of your words;
  4. You can withstand my eccentricities;
  5. You know how to take care of the “child in me”;
  6. You always think of me, and let me know it;
  7. You’re an example of religiousness;
  8. You’re not afraid to share your secrets with me;
  9. Ready to always be my confidante;
  10. My longest text and call mate;
  11. Matured thinker, ahead of your age;
  12. Consistently competent with your profession;
  13. You can drive when I cannot;
  14. You can take a two-wheeler too;
  15. You said “YES” on the 15th;
  16. You learned to kiss from me;
  17. I saw my unborn children in you even before we get married;
  18. You love music the way I do;
  19. Faithful to your promises;
  20. Unperturbed by bad influences, even from me;
  21. Not competing with me in eating “liver” stuffs;
  22. A jeepney rider but not beside the driver;
  23. You took me out of the blue… to pink!;
  24. Willing to dispose your Hello Kitty so you can have me beside you;
  25. Very understanding on my deficiencies;
  26. Disciplined and focused on matters needing it;
  27. Passionate about child care;
  28. Hands on with our kid’s school activities and assignments;
  29. Willing to sacrifice for the family’s sake;
  30. Organized on fiscal matters, a.k.a.budget queen;
  31. You mastered the map of Ayala Malls in Makati City;
  32. You admit you are unfamiliar with Mall of Asia;
  33. Always open for learning new things;
  34. Quick learner, and using it to refute my arrogance;
  35. Love just keeps on flowing from you to me and the children;
  36. Always ready to be a future lawyer’s wife;
  37. The very best friend I had;
  38. My first and last, her first and last;
  39. Very supportive and with unparalleled dedication as wife and mother;
  40. I know it will be always you… until the end of time… I LOVE YOU!

Happy Birthday! I hope I can make you as happy as you made me in our cherished years. Love you always and all the time. Mwah!

 
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Posted by on August 30, 2016 in Love and Relationships, Personal

 

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Love and Obligation

Love is a real obligation.

It is an obligation to give,

Not an obligation to receive.

Not something you can opt,

To do or not to do.

 

It is a pure obligation,

And not one with a period.

Not a reciprocal obligation,

Whose fulfillment depends,

Simultaneously with others.

 

Love is unilateral.

It is not consensual.

Love is still love,

Even if the other can not,

Even if the other will not.

 
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Posted by on February 14, 2016 in Love and Relationships, Personal

 

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An Order of Wedding in the Court of Love

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My Wedding Message:

First of all I would like to thank the newly wed couples for inviting me, especially Nette who personally “served” me with the invitation to be a part of this once in a lifetime gathering. Well, term “served” in law means being furnished with summons, subpoena or a copy of judgment, final orders, pleadings, motions and other papers. I am glad what was served on me was an invitation in this Court of Love and not in the Court of Law. However, in a few years time, our couples here with be a formidable duo of lawyers. So brace yourselves then.

What can I say? Nette is a classmate of mine in several law school subjects. Among in the last semester were Corporation Law, Succession and Legal Forms. From the outset, Nette appears to be what she really is: a career woman who already achieved a lot in her 20’s. What she had exhibited so far is maturity in handling both life’s awesomeness and difficulties. While she struggled so hard in making sure that she gets things done with outstanding results, she still made sure that her off-school life is never compromised. That is why we are all here, to witness this milestone.

I just knew Nette for a while, but in a few chances of talking with her, I knew there’s a lot more with her than meets the eye or what soothes the ears.

To Nette: just remember what I told you. No matter how good you are, a relationship is taken care of by the man. Of course you have to talk and resolve things together. But “[i]n case of disagreement, the husband’s decision shall prevail, subject to recourse to the court by the wife for proper remedy, xxx”. Of course, you already know that in the Family Code, right?

I never had the chance to personally meet and talk with Michael but I know he’s a great guy. Only a man of dignity and intellect could surely make one Jeanette fall for him so madly and deeply in love. So to Michael:  take care of your wife, in the same way Jesus Christ took care of His church.

To Michael and Nette, all the best in your married life. God bless the both of you.

 

 
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Posted by on June 13, 2015 in Love and Relationships

 

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Heart of a Valentine

for Rhea

for Rhea

It is not a heart that seeks, but the heart that finds;

Not a heart that expects, but the heart that shows;

It is not a heart that speaks, but the heart that hears;

Not a heart that explains, but the heart that express;

Each year on February 14th, many people exchange cards, candy, gifts or flowers with their special “valentine.” The day of romance we call Valentine’s Day is named for a Christian martyr and dates back to the 5th century, but has origins in the Roman holiday Lupercalia. (http://www.history.com/topics/valentines-day)

Some people overdo things during this day to the point that it seems like it is the only day to express love. Some never really do anything extraordinary for simple reasons that they are already into relationship 24/7, that there is no other extraordinary with the day. Whatever the views of the celebrants, Valentines Day is a well celebrated occasion in the Philippines.

Couples of all ages are practically anywhere (not really everywhere) doing their stuffs. Restaurants, even on hotels, are more likely to be full on this day: flowers on every corner, despite the price surges; proposals pop for engagement or marriage; renewal of wedding vows on some occasions; cards and/or love letters being delivered; cherishing with kisses and intimacies; memories after memories. At least, the bright side of life is highlighted on this day.

Today, Rhea will be surprised of these unusual flowers and the usual card. This may not be the most expensive gift (although this is also not a cheap one) but it is the expression of my best effort and capacity.Despite my busiest of busy schedule, I had to crack some time with Rhea – even if it means taking off my precious study time for my hard core law subjects.

They say the heart bears the three: faith, hope and love, but the greatest among the three is love.

If one has FAITH the size of a mustard seed, he can move mountains.

If one has a string of HOPE, he can endure the worst and see the light at the end of the tunnel.

Imagine if one has LOVE. Imagine the wonders it can do and the burdens it can conquer.

The heart of a valentine is such a mystery.

HAPPY VALENTINES, RHEA!

I love you. 1-4-3. And as the three red roses represent faith, hope and love, it is also a reminder that you are my GIRL, my WOMAN and my FRIEND. That was before, today, and forever with you. mwah!

 

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Posted by on February 14, 2015 in Love and Relationships, Personal

 

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