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Forty Reasons Why I Love You!

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Hi! It’s your birthday once again. But unlike the past celebrations, this time is different. They say life begins at forty – whatever that means. I don’t know if that is even applicable in our case.

Just to give some reasons to stay in love with you, FORTY to be exact:

  1. I knew it’s you, since Day 1 when I met you;
  2. The genuineness of your smile;
  3. The sincerity of your words;
  4. You can withstand my eccentricities;
  5. You know how to take care of the “child in me”;
  6. You always think of me, and let me know it;
  7. You’re an example of religiousness;
  8. You’re not afraid to share your secrets with me;
  9. Ready to always be my confidante;
  10. My longest text and call mate;
  11. Matured thinker, ahead of your age;
  12. Consistently competent with your profession;
  13. You can drive when I cannot;
  14. You can take a two-wheeler too;
  15. You said “YES” on the 15th;
  16. You learned to kiss from me;
  17. I saw my unborn children in you even before we get married;
  18. You love music the way I do;
  19. Faithful to your promises;
  20. Unperturbed by bad influences, even from me;
  21. Not competing with me in eating “liver” stuffs;
  22. A jeepney rider but not beside the driver;
  23. You took me out of the blue… to pink!;
  24. Willing to dispose your Hello Kitty so you can have me beside you;
  25. Very understanding on my deficiencies;
  26. Disciplined and focused on matters needing it;
  27. Passionate about child care;
  28. Hands on with our kid’s school activities and assignments;
  29. Willing to sacrifice for the family’s sake;
  30. Organized on fiscal matters, a.k.a.budget queen;
  31. You mastered the map of Ayala Malls in Makati City;
  32. You admit you are unfamiliar with Mall of Asia;
  33. Always open for learning new things;
  34. Quick learner, and using it to refute my arrogance;
  35. Love just keeps on flowing from you to me and the children;
  36. Always ready to be a future lawyer’s wife;
  37. The very best friend I had;
  38. My first and last, her first and last;
  39. Very supportive and with unparalleled dedication as wife and mother;
  40. I know it will be always you… until the end of time… I LOVE YOU!

Happy Birthday! I hope I can make you as happy as you made me in our cherished years. Love you always and all the time. Mwah!

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Posted by on August 30, 2016 in Love and Relationships, Personal

 

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Love and Obligation

Love is a real obligation.

It is an obligation to give,

Not an obligation to receive.

Not something you can opt,

To do or not to do.

 

It is a pure obligation,

And not one with a period.

Not a reciprocal obligation,

Whose fulfillment depends,

Simultaneously with others.

 

Love is unilateral.

It is not consensual.

Love is still love,

Even if the other can not,

Even if the other will not.

 
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Posted by on February 14, 2016 in Love and Relationships, Personal

 

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11/14 on 14/15

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Time really flies so fast that we ourselves did not realize that we’re together for almost a quarter of a lifetime. That is almost going back to Day 1 in school and graduate again in college. But the thing is, it’s not time that matters. While time is the controlling factor in life, the same is not true in love, because love knows no time.

We may speak of dates when we celebrate milestones especially anniversaries. But love is dated forever. Mathematically speaking, boundary value theorem applies only our physical life. But love is metaphysical or even not physical at all. It permeates the cosmos of time and space from all directions. It is something abstract, without any shape, color or bounds. It does not have conditions, but love is a condition in itself.

I recall giving advice to young women in understanding love. Love is just like matter and energy. It cannot be created nor destroyed. It can only transfer from one form to another. Of course it is only just my theory. Love is also unilateral or one-way. This was emphasized in Og Mandino’s “Memorandum from God”:

“For now you know love’s secret, that to receive love it must be given with no thought of its return. To love for fulfillment, satisfaction, or pride is no love. Love is a gift on which no return is demanded. Now you know that to love unselfishly is its own reward. And even should love not be returned it is not lost, for love not reciprocated will flow back to you and soften and purify your heart.  “

The secret in a lasting relationship is not counting on the perfection of ideas and reciprocity of feelings. It does not warrant smoothness but joy in its roughness. It is by accepting things as they are without “if’s” and “but’s”. I am not a person with all desirable traits. I am oftentimes hard-headed and low-tempered. But that is the shallowest part of me. That is only as far as you can see and project. It is only the tip of the iceberg. The bigger part of me is still below sea level. It can be as deep as the deepest known trench to man.

I take this opportunity to thank and love even more Rhea, who never stopped being my girlfriend and partner even after marriage. Thank you for being an “understanding and forgiving mistress” after I have engaged myself with the study of law, which is dubbed as a “jealous and unforgiving mistress” by many. Thank you for supporting my advocacies and loving me the way I am. My promise remains a promise as of this time. But God willing, we will be spending the remaining quarters of our lives in a more comfortable and conducive environment and setup, better than what we already cherish.

This December 14 and 15, 2014, we will be 11 years as spouses and 14 years as couples respectively. Spending a semestral break on these days is already a luxury I was deprived in the last two Christmas seasons.

Rhea: To love you more is not a promise but a commitment I already made myself bound since the day I saw you.

 
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Posted by on December 14, 2014 in Personal

 

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Birth Day, Berth Day

Rhea,

This is a very special day – your birthday.

Birth determines personality (Art. 40, Civil Code of the Philippines). Oh, I’ll stop there because it might sound like “legal writing”. Let’s go back to the specialty of this date.

We celebrate birthdays because God gave us another year to remain in this Earth. We celebrate other’s birthday because we value and treasure that person’s life as it becomes an integral part of our personal lives. We celebrate for simple reasons of our existence. We celebrate life.

My reason for revelry is a bit different. I am celebrating the birth day of my wife. I rejoice for that day that caused the existence of the person that became my better half. The merriment of it all because I found my resting place.

My life has been exhausting since birth. Every day is a winding road. Until one fair day of October 25, 2000, I saw the girl I want to spend the rest of my life. Her birth day, gave rise to my “berth” day.

Berth is a place to sleep on a ship, train, etc. It may refer to a place near water near the shore where a ship stops and stays. (Merriam-Webster, m-w.com)

So now I am making this blog to greet you in a very different way. This is just to show you how I am attached to your birthday. That despite my very abhorrent work and study schedule, I am still part human that needs a refuge in your bosom. That your existence is also the reason why I live. To be more precise, my seemingly chaff life became so esteemed and priceless when you came. Now, I do not live just for the sole reason of living; but to live indefatigably to love you.

May you enjoy this day despite my whole day away. I hope our delayed celebration will not diminish the excitement and beauty of it all.

Happy Birthday!

and 

Happy Berth-Day!

I love you always.

mwah!

-Jhez 🙂

 
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Posted by on August 29, 2014 in Love and Relationships, Personal

 

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LAW, YER OATH

oathI, JESSIE SALVADOR, do solemnly swear, that I’ll maintain allegiance to my wife Rhea; I will support our union, and obey the laws as well as the legal orders of the duly constituted family that we have; I will do no falsehood, nor consent to the doing of any in our relationship. I will not wittingly or willingly court or flirt with any other woman but her and her alone, nor give way or chance to consent to the same; I will defray no woman of affection or malice, and will conduct myself with overwhelming extra-ordinary diligence of a good father of a family, as well to my spouse Rhea as to my children; and I impose upon myself these voluntary obligations without any mental reservation or purpose of evasion. So help me God.

 
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Posted by on December 15, 2013 in Love and Relationships, Personal

 

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My 10th Wedding Anniversary

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Ten years.

Seconds to minutes, minutes to hours, hours to days, days to weeks, weeks to months, months to years, and now years to a decade.

315,360,000 seconds, or

5,256,000 minutes, or

87,600 hours, or

3,650 days, or

120 months, or

Simply 10 years

More than a number, ten years is a testimony of friendship, love and family. It is a short period compared to eternity. But applying the concepts continuum mechanics for engineers, we know that the microscopic analysis of scalars, forces and tensors though constitutive equations fill out the gaps of atomic and sub-atomic behavior to the knowledge and application of classical physics. Sounds like a deep-earthed pronouncement. For someone who chose to be a scientist, engineer and a (future) lawyer, nothing is more constitutive but the anatomy of LOVE. Just like music regarded as the language of heart, love is all that stands with the word “forever”.

Today I greet my friend, who happens to be my confidante, partner, and wife, who became a “mistress” to my study of law. [It is not to be taken in the negative but in its purest sense]. Truth is that there can never be a substitute to her. Time or other objects may intervene, but judgment on the merits had already been rendered from the day I chose to be with her.

Happy 10th year anniversary!

May God continue give us more time to live and enjoy the blessings of being with each other, for the fulfillment of His greater glory.

I LOVE YOU! MWAH!

 
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Posted by on December 14, 2013 in Love and Relationships, Personal

 

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What Valentines Day Would Mean to Lawyers?

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I am not a lawyer – certainly not yet. But just wondering and just thinking, how do lawyers celebrate this day? I may have some idea springing from my experience as a law student.

Suppose there is a class today in one major subject, like Remedial Law, Political Law, etc. which the professor calls the “big day” or a “make or break” recitation to make up in your class standing. The professor is well known for giving bad grades for recitation when someone is called and absent. You know for a fact that he calls everyone  in at least one round per meeting. You have been terribly making unsatisfactory answers in the last three meetings. You flunked the midterm exams. You need some grades to catch up. But it is also Valentines Day. You need make up with your girlfriend because you have not yet seen each other at least personally since the midterm exams. You feel that she is in the verge of give you up. You love her so much that it’s like waiting for a lifetime just to be with her. What would you do? Would you choose to study for the big-day?

Terrible, isn’t it? Just kinda thinking of a parallel scenario with lawyers.

There are court hearings today. You have at three clients set for hearing the whole day and three clients set to meet after dark. The cases were all critical. The clients were all prominent figures who might give you the break you need. But you also wanted to make up for your wife and treat her for this special day. You kids will be home early because it is exams week for them and they are dismissed early. What would be your choice?

Things like that are what we call “flavors of life”. People are so attached to so many things. They forgot the most fundamental of all – life. Will the kind of decision we make give us life? Yes. And it does matter a lot. Choosing between “live to work” or “work to live” is irrelevant. You still had to choose from living and working. Living is not actually a choice, as well as dying. We may choose how we live or die, but it is not for us if we live and definitely not for us to defer death.

To a (soon to be) lawyer, Valentines Day is an ordinary day for extra-ordinary persons. The critical choice one has to make is “who would that “extra-ordinary or special person” he would want to be with? Some may say “celebrate later”, or “it’s just for teens or youth”. Why? Have lawyers surrendered their youth and enthusiasm?

For me, I will have to spend my time, no matter how slim and narrow, with my wife and family. As most law student and lawyers know, the Family Code emphasizes the permanent nature of marriage hailing it as the foundation of the family. It is this inviolability which is central to our traditional and religious concepts of morality and provides the very bedrock on which our society finds stability.Marriage is immutable and when both spouses give their consent to enter it, their consent becomes irrevocable, unchanged even by their independent wills. (Melcampo-Sin vs. Sin, G.R. No. 137590, March 26, 2001). The State recognizes the Filipino family as the foundation of the nation. Accordingly, it shall strengthen its solidarity and actively promote its total development.Marriage, as an inviolable social institution, is the foundation of the family and shall be protected by the State. (Constitution, Article XV, Sections 1 and 2). So the choice should have been simple had we gone through the basics.

Lawyers should not choose between law and love. They are one and the same. But should they be different according to the circumstance, one should choose love. You can never go wrong.

And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love. (I Corinthians 13:13)

 
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Posted by on February 14, 2013 in Love and Relationships

 

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